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Somniloquence: v. To speak while sleeping.

The Codes of Gender

YEAR : 2009 / 1 part (75 min)

Written and directed by MEF Executive Director Sut Jhally, The Codes of Gender applies the late sociologist Erving Goffman’s groundbreaking analysis of advertising to the contemporary commercial landscape, showing how one of American popular culture’s most influential forms communicates normative ideas about masculinity and femininity.

In striking visual detail, The Codes of Gender explores Goffman’s central claim that gender ideals are the result of ritualized cultural performance, uncovering a remarkable pattern of masculine and feminine displays and poses. It looks beyond advertising as a medium that simply sells products, and beyond analyses of gender that focus on biological difference or issues of objectification and beauty, to provide a clear-eyed view of the two-tiered terrain of identity and power relations.

With its sustained focus on how our perceptions of what it means to be a man or a woman get reproduced and reinforced on the level of culture in our everyday lives, The Codes of Gender is certain to inspire discussion and debate across a range of disciplines.

Mason: “Do you have a sister…Dr. Lecter?”

Hannibal: “I had a sister.” 

The moment when you realize what Hannibal meant. If you read Thomas Harris’ book Hannibal, you would know the following: 

In Hannibal, Thomas Harris presents us with a dream that Dr. Lecter has when he dozes off during an airplane flight.  It’s his memory of an event that happened during World War II.   His parents have been killed, their estate taken over by “deserters.”  The children are locked in a barn.

The mixed bag of deserters who used the remote hunting lodge ate what they could find.  Once they found a miserable little deer, scrawny, with an arrow in it, that had managed to forage beneath the snow and survive.  They led it back into the camp to keep from carrying it…

They did not wish to fire a shot and managed to knock it off its spindly legs and hack at its throat with an axe, cursing one another in several languages to bring a bowl before the blood was wasted.

There was not much meat on the runty deer and in two days, perhaps three, in their long overcoats, their breaths stinking and steaming, the deserters came through the snow from the hunting lodge to unlock the barn and choose again from among the children huddled in the straw.  None had frozen, so they took a live one.

They felt Hannibal Lecter’s thigh and his upper arm and chest, and instead of him, they chose his sister Mischa, and led her away.  To play, they said.  No one who was led away to play ever returned. 

Hannibal held on to Mischa so hard, held to Mischa with his wiry grip until they slammed the heavy barn door on him, stunning him and cracking the bone in his upper arm.

They led her away through snow still stained bloody from the deer.

He prayed so hard that he would see Mischa again, the prayer consumed his six-year-old mind, but it did not drown out the sound of the axe.  His prayer to see her again did not go entirely unanswered—he did see a few of Mischa’s milk teeth in the reeking stool pit his captors used between the lodge where they slept and the barn where they kept the captive children who were their sustenance in 1944 after the Eastern Front collapsed…

Mischa’s horrible slaughter and consumption by the deserters formed the fantasy that shaped Hannibal Lecter, a revenge fantasy.  In his dream, the deserters are crude and uncouth.  They’re not soldiers but deserters, cowards, ignoble by definition.  They take over Lecter’s parents’ property and relegate the young residents to the barn.  Their breath stinks.  They butcher a deer as Neanderthals would.  They screech like greedy vultures when they see the spilled blood seeping into the snow.

When he grows up, Lecter targets men he considered petty and uncouth.   Raspail the inferior flutist, Krendler the vindictive bureaucrat, Pazzi the corrupt cop, the census taker, even Mason Verger the former libertine who managed by a miracle of medical science to survive Lecter’s wrath—all of them are nothing more than stand-ins for the deserters who ate his sister.

Obviously he eats his victims because they ate Mischa.  An eye for an eye.  But why the gourmet preparation?  Why serve their organs sautéed in butter and shallots?  Why spend exorbitant amounts of money on vintage wines to go with these human entrees?  Because Lecter knows he’s better than the troglodytes who killed his sister.     He has refinement and a noble lineage.  He would never eat meat roasted on a stick.  He does it the most sophisticated way possible.  His meticulous preparation of human flesh is his way of throwing it in the faces of the deserters who gnawed on Mischa’s bones.

(source: 
http://www.crimelibrary.com/serial_killers/weird/lecter/7.html)

The Truth Lies Within The Seeds Of The Creator.

The Truth Lies Within The Seeds Of The Creator.

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The Comfort Of Light When Morning Comes.

The Comfort Of Light When Morning Comes.

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aelvea:

Back in Dominican Republic rope jumping in the blue lagoon ☽☮☾

aelvea:

Back in Dominican Republic rope jumping in the blue lagoon ☽☮☾

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I’ve Caught You Looking.
loyial:

 

aelvea:

Aelvea and Loyial’s giveaway!

To celebrate Aelvae reaching 20k followers, we decided to do a little giveaway! We looked around the house and gathered some cute little gifts for you.

It includes:

  • The XX LP
  • Arctic Monkeys LP
  • Fujifilm Instant Camera Instax210 (will have a pack of 10 films to go with it)
  • Polaroid 600 super colour land camera
  • Yashica Lynx-1000 (all the cameras are in good condition)
  • Tattoo choker necklace and bracelet
  • Accessorize bag
  • Metal box with Hindu design
  • One white nail polish (Hema)
  • One tourmaline necklace
  • Two pairs of sunglasses
  • One amber bracelet
  • One necklace with an amber amulet
  • A pair of Hamsa hand earrings
  • Three bracelets
  • An elephant ring
  • One bronze Buddha scent stick holder
  • A wooden camel

Rules: must be following both of us x and x. Must reblog, likes count as bookmarks. 

Winners will be randomly chosen by randomizer, so you can have any type of blog. The you reblog, the more your url will appear, so you have a higher chance of being chosen.

The lucky person will be sent a private message asking for the address and contact, so you must have parents’ permission to give your address or be over 18. Shipping worldwide with no fees.

Deadline: 1st June

Happy reblogging and good luck!

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theladycheeky:

.@Stoya can’t give talks in high schools, because she makes porn films. If she could, here’s what she’d say about respecting other people’s boundaries during sex.
A person’s first condom, strap-on, or lacy thong doesn’t come with a pamphlet explaining active consent. Tampon companies don’t print statements on the back of their boxes encouraging teenagers to express their desires and ask for the desires of their sexual partners. Someone should do something about this. It would be extremely inappropriate for me to march into high schools and begin expounding upon communication, respecting other people’s limits, and taking responsibility for expressing your own. What I can do is expound upon some basic guidelines on the internet and hope the core concepts trickle down. 
So, here they are: 
1. Ask the people you will be having sex with what their preferences and limits are. This fosters active consent and encourages communication. 
2. In order for a sexual partner to be able to give you what you want, you have to tell them what your desires are. A sexual partner can’t respect your limits if you don’t express them. 
3. It is completely OK to retract your consent during a sex act. You can say that something is more intense than you thought it would be and you are no longer OK with it. If you do not speak up your partner(s) have no guaranteed way of knowing that you are unhappy or uncomfortable. 
4. If a sexual partner says something hurts, uses a “safe word” or other signal to communicate that they want the sexual interaction to stop, or just looks unhappy, freaked out, or generally not OK, you need to stop what you’re doing and check in with them.
5. If your partner(s) are drunk or high, their ability to consent is questionable. If they’ve previously expressed distaste for anal sex and are slurring “Fuck my asshole” you should politely decline and bring the subject up later when they’re sober. This applies to any sexual act that you have not previously engaged in with this person. 
6. As a general rule, don’t penetrate an orifice, pee, vomit, or bleed on someone, or slap them around without discussing the act first. 
7. If your sexual partner(s) express a limit or ask for something to stop and you do not respect it, you are stepping onto a scale that ranges from “jerk” to “full-on rapist”. Personally, I don’t want to be on that scale at all, and I don’t want to engage in sexual activity with anyone who does hang out on that scale. 
8. If one of your sexual partners steps on to the jerk-to-full-on rapist scale, call them out on it. You have the right to end the sexual activity you are engaged in and to decline sexual activity with them in the future. There you are. If any condom companies want to use those bits on their wrappers, hit me up.
-Stoya
Originally published in: New Statesman.To read the entire article, CLICK below:
http://www.newstatesman.com/voices/2014/01/if-you-dont-want-say-no-porn-stars-guide-sexual-consent
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theladycheeky:

.@Stoya can’t give talks in high schools, because she makes porn films. If she could, here’s what she’d say about respecting other people’s boundaries during sex.

A person’s first condom, strap-on, or lacy thong doesn’t come with a pamphlet explaining active consent. Tampon companies don’t print statements on the back of their boxes encouraging teenagers to express their desires and ask for the desires of their sexual partners. Someone should do something about this. It would be extremely inappropriate for me to march into high schools and begin expounding upon communication, respecting other people’s limits, and taking responsibility for expressing your own. What I can do is expound upon some basic guidelines on the internet and hope the core concepts trickle down. 

So, here they are: 

1. Ask the people you will be having sex with what their preferences and limits are. This fosters active consent and encourages communication. 

2. In order for a sexual partner to be able to give you what you want, you have to tell them what your desires are. A sexual partner can’t respect your limits if you don’t express them. 

3. It is completely OK to retract your consent during a sex act. You can say that something is more intense than you thought it would be and you are no longer OK with it. If you do not speak up your partner(s) have no guaranteed way of knowing that you are unhappy or uncomfortable. 

4. If a sexual partner says something hurts, uses a “safe word” or other signal to communicate that they want the sexual interaction to stop, or just looks unhappy, freaked out, or generally not OK, you need to stop what you’re doing and check in with them.

5. If your partner(s) are drunk or high, their ability to consent is questionable. If they’ve previously expressed distaste for anal sex and are slurring “Fuck my asshole” you should politely decline and bring the subject up later when they’re sober. This applies to any sexual act that you have not previously engaged in with this person. 

6. As a general rule, don’t penetrate an orifice, pee, vomit, or bleed on someone, or slap them around without discussing the act first. 

7. If your sexual partner(s) express a limit or ask for something to stop and you do not respect it, you are stepping onto a scale that ranges from “jerk” to “full-on rapist”. Personally, I don’t want to be on that scale at all, and I don’t want to engage in sexual activity with anyone who does hang out on that scale. 

8. If one of your sexual partners steps on to the jerk-to-full-on rapist scale, call them out on it. You have the right to end the sexual activity you are engaged in and to decline sexual activity with them in the future. There you are. If any condom companies want to use those bits on their wrappers, hit me up.

-Stoya

Originally published in: New Statesman.
To read the entire article, CLICK below:

http://www.newstatesman.com/voices/2014/01/if-you-dont-want-say-no-porn-stars-guide-sexual-consent

Follow Stoya on Tumblr: http://stoya.tumblr.com

Follow Stoya on Twitter: @stoya

Follow Stoya on Instagram: http://instagram.com/stoya

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The Path of The Wise Is The Loneliest Path.
Suomi.
Loneliness Is An Illusion. Reflection In Silent Solitude Is A Moment In Which We Are Part Of The All, Not Separated From it.